Is a spouse cheating on your client?

Although none of the following alone will indicate clearly that a spouse is cheating they can provide a starting point to develop some foundation questions to assist in identifying where best to direct surveillance and other investigative efforts. 

1. Has the suspected cheating spouse suddenly developed a need for privacy? Maybe the spouse has become password protecting cell phones, creating new computer log-ins, leaves the room when taking phone calls and/or becomes defensive when asked about activities while away from their spouse. 

2. Sudden changes in work habits - the cheating spouse will often have a significant change in work habits. Suddenly they begin to work later or begin "traveling" more than usual. 

3. Missing money or changes in finances - there are unexplained expenses on credit cards or debits from bank accounts. Abnormal increases in cell phone usage or unexplained cash withdrawals. 

4. Becoming withdrawn - the cheating spouse will become more frequently disengaged from the relationship possibly avoiding intimacy, avoiding talk about their relationship or try to avoid conversations about long-term plans. 

5. Changes in appearance - cheating spouses will often change their appearance by dressing differently, changing hair styles, adopting a look they think makes them look younger. They may start dressing up to run out to the store or dressing in a manner not consistent with the activity they state they are going to be engaged in. 

6. Personal hygiene changes - cheating spouses may appear at home after a long day at work freshly showered. 

7. More outings with friends - increased frequency of nights out with the boys or girls that are sustained for longer periods of time. 

8. Becoming overly sensitive - cheating spouses will work extra hard to convince their spouse they are not cheating. The cheating spouse may react strongly to jokes about an affair, or spending time away from home.